A paradigm shift is needed
It’s time to rethink our cultural belief that old people aren’t sexual. And if they are, it’s disgusting, embarrassing, and shameful.
First off, this belief is a throwback to earlier times when women didn’t have the pill, and Viagra was only wishful thinking. And second, it’s just not true as more seniors than you might think are having sex these days. Some are even having the best sex of their lives—loving, passionate, orgasmic sex.
Sex is an elixir for aging
As it turns out, sex is a natural elixir for the health problems that plague old age. Research shows that loving touch, sex, and orgasms all possess health-enhancing properties pharmaceuticals only wish they could reproduce. Sex has the potential to be the fountain of youth for aging folks. This is because sexual intimacy is naturally healthy and enables us to live longer, happier lives.
Senior sex promotes overall good health
Even more so than our simian cousins, human beings are social animals, meaning our bodies crave intimate, physical contact with others. Recent research indicates that older folks who are lonely have a greater risk of dying than those who are not. Women who identify as lonely have a 64% greater chance of developing dementia and being placed in a nursing home.
It’s in our best interests to continue being sexual as we age. We feel most alive when we’re in a sexy, loving relationship. And when loving couples rekindle the flame after a long hiatus, they regain their excitement about life. Despite the cultural meme that sex is only for the young, our bodies are never too old for sex.
Sex improves women’s health
Research at Wilkes University found that women who have sex more than twice a week have 30% higher levels of Immunoglobulin A. This antibody boosts the immune system to fight viruses like flu and pneumonia, which are deadly to the elderly. Sexual activity also releases oxytocin, the “love hormone,” which promotes emotional bonding and feelings of well being. And it’s been shown to lower blood pressure, anxiety symptoms, and stress levels as well.
Research at Rutgers University found that women who have sex regularly may be able to raise their pain threshold by more than 90%. A recent study at the Sexuality Resource Center in Madison, WI reported that just one orgasm a week has the potential to reduce depression and risk of heart disease in women by 36%!
So, an orgasm a day keeps illness at bay…
Orgasms reduce heart disease in senior men
But the most compelling study comes from Queens University in Belfast. Researchers tracked 918 men, aged 45 to 59 for 14 years to determine if there was a relationship between sexual frequency and lifespan. They found that the more orgasms men in their study had, the longer they lived. Men who had 3+ orgasms a week cut their risk of heart attack and stroke by 50%!
These findings are remarkable because no medication can approximate that success. Yet, most Americans rely on pharmaceuticals to prevent stroke and heart attack. And the effectiveness of beta-blockers, the medication frequently prescribed for heart disease, is questionable for older patients.
Over 450 years ago, Michelangelo commented on the profound nature of touch. Saul Schanberg, an early researcher on touch, believed it to be more powerful than vocal or facial communication. Recent studies show that people can differentiate feelings of love, anger, gratitude, disgust, and compassion by touch alone over 50% of the time. Compassion is the emotion most easily understood by touch. This makes touch the most natural way to communicate love to your partner.
Science has determined that touch is crucial for maintaining good health. Lack of it can result in a lowered immune response, childhood delays, allergies, asthma, dermatitis, and cardiovascular disease. Babies die without it and so do the elderly.
Loving touch enables people to feel emotionally safe and secure. It has the amazing ability to balance the right and left sides of the brain, while therapeutic massage can reduce chronic pain among many other things. In ways science can measure but not yet explain, loving touch is able to lower stress levels and lessen depression.
There is no evidence to prove we ever outgrow this basic human need. In fact, we need to touch and to be touched even more as we grow older. I believe loving, sensual sex is exactly what enables seniors to feel good about life until the end.
Paradigm shift: Seniors are sexual beings
Bottom line: Hard data shows that sex plays a major role in keeping us healthy as we age. It’s time to change the existing paradigm on sex and aging and embrace our sexuality as we age. It is not our bodies but the antiquated beliefs around sex and aging that stop us from enjoying this natural blessing. Denying our need for sex goes against our basic nature because sexual desire and our ability to orgasm never die.
Skin is our biggest, most sensitive sex organ, so sexual pleasure is always at our fingertips. In addition, sensual pleasure is free, without side effects, and brings joy to both giver and receiver. I’m here to encourage you to become more sexual as you age, for your health’s sake and your own happiness. Imagine how much more alive you’ll feel with more touch and sex in your life!
Have you found that sexual intimacy makes your life better? Let us know in the comments below!